“You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always their actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.”
– Nicholas Sparks
Disclaimer: If you haven’t read A Walk to Remember or seen the movie, there are spoilers in this post.
I remember the first time I read the book A Walk to Remember. I was so upset by the ending and was absolutely devastated that anyone could write a book where the main character dies. I was a firm believer in happily ever afters. That’s probably why I fell so hard when I didn’t get mine.
I also couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that Landon wanted to marry Jamie knowing that she was going to die. Who does that?! I was young and couldn’t understand how or why anyone would put themselves through that. Back then, I clearly didn’t appreciate the depth of his love for Jamie or understand what it meant to love someone enough to go to any lengths to make them happy.
Having lived a little since then, I started to realize that it is possible to love someone so wholeheartedly that you would do anything to be with that person. The sad part is sometimes that person is not willing to do the same for you.
One of the lessons I’ve learned is that it’s easy for some people to tell you that they love you. However, it doesn’t mean that they truly mean it. If they can’t commit to you or show you that they love you, then those are just three empty words.
Maybe it’s just as well. Maybe it’s better to let go and open your heart to someone new because you may find someone who is better suited to you, who is capable of loving you unconditionally. Someone who will not only say those words but whose actions will match.