Day 171: “Happiness is a State of Mind”

Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
-Vivian Greene

As much as I love sunshine, I guess we need rainy days too. Sometimes, it’s nice just closing your eyes and listening to the sound of the rain. It can be very therapeutic and that’s probably why many people like listening to rain sounds before bed. Maybe I’ll try that one day…

Days like this are also perfect for curling up with a good book. I’m currently reading “Happiness is a State of Mind” by His Holiness the Gyalwang Drukpa. Somehow, every sentence so far relates to what I’ve been thinking and how I’ve been acting. It’s almost creepy. Whether you have found your happiness or not, I would recommend you read this book.

One of the key takeaways so far is Drukpa emphasizes that we don’t need to pursue or chase happiness. We can create it.  Happiness means something different to each person and once you find out your true source of happiness, you can cultivate it.

He also talks about living with intention versus setting expectations. When people have expectations for themselves, they focus on what they haven’t achieved and are more likely to become disappointed or unhappy as a result. However, when they live with intention, they focus on the things they have accomplished because anything can happen; there is no specific outcome. It’s all about perspective!

In my earlier post, I wrote about my expectations to get married before 30. I was so focused on that goal that the realization of it not happening crushed me. Had I been living with intention, I may have seen the red flags in my relationship and prevented a whole lot of unnecessary heartache! I guess the lesson for today is that life never goes according to plan and although, it can be good to have some goals, my happiness should not depend solely on their achievement.

 

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